They say honesty is the best policy, but what happens when you’re dealing with a dishonest person? Untrustworthy persons have a few tendencies in common, ranging from a lack of integrity to breaching norms. Continue reading to learn how to recognize these untrustworthy behaviors and what to do when talking with an untrustworthy individual. On the other hand, here are a few odd behaviors that make you appear trustworthy.
Lack of integrity
Lack of integrity is one of the most typical characteristics of untrustworthy persons. They don’t keep their promises. They breach their pledges. They may apologize, but they do not modify their conduct. A person with integrity maintains their name. Someone would suffer if they were betrayed or exploited. For example, you tell them something confidentially and discuss it with others, but you don’t appear to be unhappy that it affects you.
Don’t trust others
People that are untrustworthy do not trust others. It seems to reason that someone who has no qualms about breaking their promise and destroying trust cannot believe that other people are trustworthy. What’s intriguing is the breadth and depth of their lack of confidence. They will accuse innocent individuals of engaging in the same actions that they do. For example, a man accuses his wife of cheating because he is, or a manager fears his staff will deceive him because he is defrauding the company’s owner.
History of being unreliable
Untrustworthy persons may have a track record of being untrustworthy. They are like slot machines. They know precisely how much they can get away with, and just as you are ready to leave, they do something fantastic to entice you to stay. Untrustworthy people exhibit a range of behaviors, from apologizing (‘I am so sorry I am late again.’) to lying. I know I said I’d be here at 1:00…’) to utterly duping you (‘I never said I’d be here at 1:00. You must have misunderstood me’). The common thread is that you are inclined to believe them despite their track record of being untrustworthy.
Break the rules and push past boundaries
Be cautious of an untrustworthy person’s public image, as well as how they behave with friends and family. Though they may appear to be good citizens to the outside world, they reveal their actual natures when they are with close friends and family, individuals with less influence, or those who are beholden to them. They reveal their actual personalities when they are ‘off camera.’
Don’t take feelings into account
Have you ever attempted to explain why something made you feel uneasy, but the other person didn’t seem to care? Untrustworthy persons continue to exist. Your emotions are unimportant. They do not quit doing anything that makes you feel uneasy.
Empathy is an essential component of listening to and getting to know another person. When there is no empathy, though, this might be a warning flag. They seem to ignore, be oblivious of, or even relish your discomfort, sickness, or misery. For example, an untrustworthy individual may cross a boundary by interrupting you and refusing to stop even when you express your displeasure.
There are a few other warning signals to be aware of, such as when someone dominates the conversation. This ‘over-talking’ entails auditory space invasion, which demonstrates that they are in control.
They are engaging and “excellent storytellers,” so listening to them may be intoxicating. Keep an eye out for a lack of inclusion. Loving couples, especially introverted partners, share their speaking time with their partners. It’s not natural to feel that you’re just listening to a monologue or that you’re not involved at all.
Tend to blame others
Take note of how frequently they blame others for everything. There are genuine victims of abuse, and we must be compassionate and considerate of them. Someone who acts unkindly, brusquely, and bullies others while claiming victimization is plainly not a victim.
Hard to understand
Conversational behaviors such as not getting to the point, making educated guesses rather than giving knowledge, and speaking disorderly and confusingly are all instances of untrustworthy communication.
So, what should you do when talking to somebody untrustworthy? Gauge your level of safety and trust your gut.
It is critical to first determine whether you feel comfortable. If you feel uncomfortable, simply walk away from the individual without feeling horrible or worried about being disrespectful. You may test them by asking them a ‘negative’ question to check if they are safe. Liars know what they’re doing, but they’ve constructed a positive person, so ask them negative questions to see if it makes them unreliable.
Second, untrustworthy people want you to listen to their words rather than their behavioral signals. Your brain is more intelligent than you realize. When individuals lie, they shift their tone of voice or turn much of their body away from you.
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