Becoming a parent is not less than a full-time job. Child-rearing responsibilities ask for a lot of physical as well as emotional labor. With so much going on, parents often become despotic to discipline their children. However, treating children with aggression is a definite no-no, no matter what the situation is!
3 Reasons Why Parents Should Avoid Scolding Their Children
Parents should avoid scolding their children because excessive scolding can:
1. Lead Them Astray
A toxic environment at home where your child gets scolded over petty issues is the worst thing that you can provide to your child at such a tender age. Well, as a parent, you have the best of intentions. There’s absolutely no doubt about that. Wanting their child to behave well, perform brilliantly at school, or simply be a ‘good kid’ is something that is very much expected from parents. And it’s justified too.
However, scolding children for getting a B on their test rather than an A grade or losing a football match, or spilling orange juice on your favorite rug? NOT JUSTIFIED. Blowing up on them over petty issues can backfire and lead them astray. They may become rebellious. Knowing what triggers you the most, your child may now do it on purpose – only out of aggression and anger! You don’t want little rebels in your house, do you?
2. Shatter Their Self-confidence
Excessive scolding shatters your child’s self-esteem and confidence in unprecedented ways. Children are human too, and if you expect your child to be perfect at literally everything, you’re expecting way too much from them. It’s outright exploitative of you to force your child to act a certain way and scold them when they fail in doing so.
Excessive scolding makes the child insecure about their worth. They may as well start questioning and underestimating their potential and come to believe that they can never be good enough. This not only hinders their personal development but also makes them suspectable to psychological dysfunctionalities. At a tender age, all that your child needs is love, affection, and care.
3. Influence Them Negatively
Children look at their parents as role models; it’s a given. Ask a kid who they want to be like when they grow up, and you’ll get the most anticipated answer – their parents! Children try to imitate their mom or dad in every way possible. Now it’s on the parent to use this opportunity in the best possible way. Excessive scolding deeply engraves anger, aggressiveness, and rage into these fragile minds.
You may not initially realize it, but over time, the reality will unfold in front of you. You’ll see how their behaviorisms are heavily influenced by the negative emotions that have resided within their tender young hearts. Would you want them to grow up into becoming a toxic parent or spouse? Well, scolding them all these years, you have, for them, kind of normalized pouring out all their anger and frustration onto other people, no? Give it a thought! All in all, the way you bring up your child as a parent leaves a long-lasting impact on their personality and, subsequently, on their future as well.
So, are you ready to break the cycle of toxic parenting? Let us know in the comment section below!
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