Have you seen Indian Matchmaking yet? If you have, then you know how horrific the matchmaking culture is in South Asia. Even if you haven’t, we know you have a clue from when you eavesdropped into elders’ conversation!
Pakistanis Get Real About Rishta
The rishta culture is incredibly toxic and bad for mental health. A family goes to meet another family, and then they see whether they want to “accept” or reject.” Most times, the guy’s side goes to see the girl; hence, mostly girls are being denied. Why might you be thinking? Because sometimes height is ‘too small’, ‘skin too dark’, ‘she earns more than the guy’, or ‘she’s confident’!
Just like that, someone on Twitter put up a tweet that hurt the sentiments of many while it encouraged others to speak up about their own experiences!
A Call Out Tweet On The Rishta Culture
Kisi ki beti dekhne janay se pehle apna beta dekh ke jaya karein.
— 𝐒𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐚. (@beekaboo_) August 14, 2020
People Shared Their Horrible Experiences
Since when you started to care about our appearance.. You lot see money and then however he looks he becomes ur janu
— Abrar (@Abrar940) August 15, 2020
Why don’t girls come ? Why men have to go ?
— XULQI MOON (@XULQIMOON) August 15, 2020
Kisi Kay bettay ya usky ghar pr AIB niklany say phly apny bety Kay girabaan jhaank kr jaye🙏
— azeem ali (@azeemal79154073) August 15, 2020
Kisi ka ghar gaari Bank balance dekhne Jane se Pehle apno oqaat dekh k Jaya kren.
— Inzi (@L0st_ilusion) August 16, 2020
Lol. Thank God that I didn’t have to go through this ordeal. Aunty’s hated me, cuz I would ask more questions to the guy and family more than my parents. Was a terror in this dept.
— Aman (@AmanHChoudhry) August 15, 2020
Jtna kojja…. utni pretty…
Jtna badkarr…utni pakbaaz….
Jtna nakama…utni saleeqa mand…
Jtna gawar….utni manners wali…
Jtna Bay rozgar….utni rozgar wali…
— ……… (@SoniHaddi) August 15, 2020
Point To Ponder Upon
These tweets and experiences of people make us reflect on our culture. The new generation resents the rishta culture, but there is a traditional belief that there is some divinity in it. You will often see aunties justifying their decision by going to various houses and rejecting girls by saying this is all pre-ordained!
However, another particular thing that we need to question is the double standard in this entire process. Why are the judging criteria for both the sexes different? Moreover, the manner in which it is varied is also sexist!
Men are presumed to be the breadwinner, which is why their earning matters. A woman is supposed to stay at home; hence, she’s supposed to be well-mannered and refined. As a piece of decoration, you can show off!
Matchmaking Lives On
Matchmaking might live on till the end of time. However, that doesn’t mean it can’t be made any less toxic. We can choose not to go out looking for women as pristine pieces of decoration you can place in your house. Moreover, men can also not be pressurized for being able to sustain families with their salaries in their early 20s.
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