Pakistanis’ obsession over marriages will always stand out, no matter what. We, as Pakistanis, have endorsed the tradition of spending hefty amounts of money on the never-ending wedding celebrations and festivities, for a long time now. Apart from all the excitement, however, desi parents remain incredibly concerned about marrying off their daughters into appropriate households. Having their daughters divorced is still their worst nightmare.
However, in the conservative Pakistani society, Pakistani girls expressing their opinions on marriages and regarding their preferable marital partner is still frowned upon. Highly discouraged from talking openly about these issues and taking charge in such matters, Pakistani girls have taken their admiration of ending up with a perfect life partner and having a successful married life to Twitter.
Not All Girls Dream of Prince Charming
Not every girl wants a prince charming to get married to. Growing up listening to fairytales and chronicles about how strikingly handsome men rescue their ‘princesses,’ and then drooling over unrealistic Bollywood love stories such as Hum Tum, Kal Ho Na Ho, Kaho Naa Pyaar Hai, and Dil To Pagal Hai, to name a few, a lot of girls do draw impractical expectations for their marital lives.
However, not every girl thinks this way. Reality kicks in eventually with time changing the way young girls view their life, putting an end to their quest of finding their prince charming.
This became apparent when girls on Twitter preferred talking about their potential partner’s mannerisms and behavior rather than his financial stability and looks. Young ladies chanted how the ideal marital partner for them would be respectful towards women and their families.
Here is what they had to say:
Marry a guy who knows how to respect a girl ,whose mother is satisfied with him and whose sister believes that he's the ideal version of a male.
— Mahnoor. 🇵🇸 (@Mahnooryayy) August 30, 2020
Marry a guy whose female friends think he respects them. Most people care and respect those from their own blood but not many do with those who aren't.
— Spoof (@spooftastic) August 31, 2020
"The best way to judge a guy is look at how genuine his mom is"..a very nice guy once gave me that advice.
— Shama Khan (@ShamaKh84025358) August 31, 2020
However, others disagreed and drew the drape off the other, rather gloomy, side of the Pakistani society and the mainstream Pakistani mindset.
This is no standard. A person can be good to his mother/sister but horrible to his wife. Many even put down their wives just to please their mothers/sisters.
— Bella (@_akkiz) August 31, 2020
Wrong. Sometimes someone can be the perfect brother, the perfect son and yet be the most cruel and indifferent partner in a relationship in private. Judge them by how they treat every single girl regardless of their profession, their lifestyle, dressing, etc
— Rida Zahra (@Ridiculous567) August 31, 2020
Pakistani Men Barge In
And of course, feeling the need to present their opinions, our brothers had to barge in to represent the Pakistani men’s community. While some played the victim and outright rejected the stance, others declared that a person’s true self could only be unleashed after observing them closely and spending enough time with them.
In our society, this is only possible after the knot is tied. Hence, nobody can fully judge their potential partner beforehand, and once the knot is tied, there is no u-turn.
Marry a girl who's father is satisfied with her. Whose brother thinks that she's the ideal version of female.
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— Taimur Shah💙🖤 (@bhonko_shah) August 31, 2020
Its like a watermelon you can only asume how redish it will be once u cut than you dont have a chance rather than to accept whatever the result is.
— غدار پنڈی وال (@NumanShaukat1) August 31, 2020
Anyhow, the mindset of young girls is changing for the better. In today’s age, the fundamental requirement of Pakistani girls for their husband-to-be is for him to be compassionate, understanding, loving, and, most of all “respectful” not only towards his wife but towards all the stakeholders of the relationship.
Hence, the long-held adage, ‘nice guys finish last,’ should be put off the table since guys who are genuinely nice and compassionate are very much in demand now.
What qualities would you look for in your potential spouse? Do you think it is possible to judge a person entirely before tying the knot? Let us know in the comment section below.
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