There are certain sets of social rules and etiquette that the majority of people living in Pakistan should learn. These etiquettes are based on basic human decency and help shape one’s personality. These etiquettes solve social issues and better the nation as a whole. The difference can be seen on a larger scale even if everyone brings about a little change. In no way, am I claiming that these problems only lie within the Pakistani community but yes, these etiquettes need to be learned by everyone who needs them.
1. Assuming People’s Ages And Relationships At Social Gatherings
Pakistani culture involves big gatherings at happy occasions like someone’s wedding. However, there is always this particular group of “aunties” whose sole purpose is to assume people’s age based on the way they look, especially girls. They are also very vocal about it and do not hesitate to tell a girl that “red lipstick makes her look younger and she should go for a more nude tone”. These “aunties” also try and guess people’s relationships at such events. If a guy and a girl are seen together it is assumed that there is “something” between them. They then also create full scenarios in their head and continue to spread the “news”. Apparently, minding their own business is a very difficult job.
2. Giving Way To Ambulances While Driving
Civic sense is not very commonly seen on the streets of Pakistan. This is because of the “I own the city” mentality found in the majority of drivers. However, some also lack basic human decency. Many drivers do not give way to ambulances knowing that life might be at stake. Some people do give way but many think selfishly that they’re the only ones who need to get somewhere on time. Giving way to ambulances may get you late in reaching your destination but it sure will get you some good points as far as humanity is concerned.
3. Helping People Out When They See Someone Needs It
Like such ambulance incidents, it is seen almost every day on the streets of Pakistan that someone needs help but no one stops even for a second. They do not pay enough attention and even if they do not care enough to help. Does helping someone take a lot of time and effort? Apparently, for the people in Pakistan, it does. People are so engrossed in their own lives and are maybe even so selfish that they do not think once before ignoring such a person who looks like he needs help.
4. Restricting Themselves From Engaging In Gossip And Drama That Does Not Involve Them
Pakistanis are suckers for drama and gossip. It is mainly the reason why celebrities strive in the Pakistani TV and film industry. In corporate offices, normal households, and almost every social place people are extremely interested in listening to the new gossip. They love to hear rumors and furthermore, they also love to spread those rumors with some twist of their own. It’s almost as if people feed off of news about others be it, anybody. This culture only promotes negativity and may even affect the person’s mental health who the news is about.
5. Refraining From Giving Unwanted Advice
Another thing Pakistanis are very generous about is giving free advice. The excuse “Tumhare bhalai ke liye bol rahe hai” (We’re suggesting this for your own good) is frequently used by unsolicited consultants. In a society where “the elders know best,” it is simple to pass off prejudice and misogyny as altruistic care, especially when the advisors are somehow related to us.
Someone’s uncle might be angry because, despite his advice, they didn’t smile enough. Even while each of these events seems minor on its own, taken as a whole, they show a pattern. No gender is immune to this intrusive society, but the comments directed at certain people are particularly upsetting. The remarks show preconceived notions about what people should value most, such as their bodies, their clothes, or their families. They also expose an entitlement culture.
6. Avoid Becoming Freeloaders When They See An Opportunity
Understanding how cooperation can be sustained in the presence of freeloaders, or people who take advantage of the more cooperative members of groups they are anxious to join, has been one of the perennial difficulties in the study of social evolution. When groups are made up of strangers and those who participate more actively in group activities don’t receive any physical benefits, the freeloader dilemma might be especially problematic.
In “desi shaadis” or family gatherings, food is a must. But sometimes some people may think that the world is about to end and start hoarding food. This is where things take a rather bitter turn. The hosts might be the “I know but I am going to let it pass” type but this does not mean that is right. Pakistanis need to learn that when visiting some place or being a part of a social gathering it is not necessary to show your true self.
7. Stop Being Overly Influenced By Western Culture
Each nation has its own unique culture. Pakistan’s culture is immensely diverse, with each ethnic group getting its identity from unique cultural values and customs that ultimately set it apart from other groups. Our nation has become increasingly Westernized as a result of the media. The TV networks have a variety of program hosts and drama characters dressed in western attire. Moreover, English or Urdu? Majority of people, nowadays, are not proud to speak our own language, and the middle class and upper class are particularly guilty of this. Moreover, relationship culture has also been normalized which was never really a part of Pakistani culture.
8. Being Nice Towards House Help And To The Lower Class
Three categories make up the wealthy community – Generous, selfish, and egotistical. Many Pakistanis behave badly, beat their servants, and treat them like animals. However, other people are incredibly kind, and considerate, and treat them like family. Some people are egotistical; they only want their services and never assist them when they need it. Egoistic people treat them cruelly and like animals after that. However, such negative cases rarely ever come to light. There are good, kind-hearted people in Pakistan, but sadly, the media doesn’t highlight them since it only cares about negative news that divides and incites hatred among its audience.
9. Stop Thinking That Wealth And Status Define One’s Place In Society
The term “middle class” has a wide variety of definitions, ranging from a vague set of ideals to a very precise measurement of household income, and everything in between. Cash is like economic resources, especially income, wealth, and freedom from poverty. Credentials like educational achievements and qualifications, occupational status, and Culture attitudes, mindset, behavior, and self-definition. Pakistanis apparently think that these things define one’s social status and that in some people’s opinion is illiteracy. A wealthy man might not be a spendthrift and that is why he might look poor in society and the case might be vice versa. But this is a very unhealthy practice that has also encouraged people to act a certain way to “fit” into society.
10. Avoid Going To People’s House Uninvited
Pakistanis have this weird habit of being uninvited guests. They often go to people’s houses at odd hours and stay there even when they can feel that they might be uninvited or the hosts might want to rest. This comes under the category of “hospitality”. People have the misconception that everyone is very hospitable and that they can be “guests” for however long they want to. But when the tables turn, they might not be in the “giving back” spirit.
Anyways, Pakistanis are going to stay Pakistanis nonetheless.
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